to be ignored…..

It is amazing how often we hear it…..maybe, even said it ourselves (we know we have!) that someone is “ignoring me”.  It is more common than we think.  However, is it really true?  Is it that we are being ignored or that people are not communicating with us in the way we would want/need or demand?

Let’s have an example.  If I have reason to doubt that someone is honest, I tend to go quiet with them.  I will say hello or respond if they happen to talk with me but will not go out of my way to begin a new conversation, after all, I am doubting if they are trustworthy.  If they respond in a similar way, it is not fair of me to say that the individual is ‘ignoring me’ – they happen to be responding in kind.

A better response is to ask, why is my communication with this individual lacking?  It may be that before you accuse them of ignoring you, you may have to remove the log from your own eye.