“You know you will be ok, look he is wearing a hoodie so he is cool and so the group will be fine.”
This statement was made in front of me and I was not sure whether to be happy or upset that such a comment was made. Initially, I was quite pleased that a parent was encouraging their child to the youth group that I lead on a voluntary basis, but as the statement sunk in, I realised how poor a statement that it was.
1) wearing a hoodie does not determine the value of anything. All it says is that the individual is wearing a hoodie.
2) being ‘cool’ was an expression from the 80’s, I am in my 40s’, being ‘cool’ is not even close. Makes me want to puke!
3) the value of the group is nothing to do with the clothing choices of the members/leaders – it is based on the quality of the relationships that the group develops
The list could go on – the utterances of this parent make me shudder – the good news is that the member settled in well, contributes to the group and has strong relationships with others. On the other hand, my hoodie tops do not get worn as often!